Anorexia Looking For Blame In The Past

Anorexia Looking For Blame In The Past

I had this post below this video on my you tube channel from a girl who had anorexia and her therapist looked into the past thinking there must be evidence of abuse and thats the reason for the anorexia.

Help; I Have Anorexia & Now False Memories

I need help. I had a few really bad “false memories” because I was anorexic and had been cutting and depressed and have bad anxiety and no reason for any of it. So like you said, therapist get excited when you share something from childhood….my “memory” was really bad and I’m really embarrassed about It.
I didn’t think it was true until the doctors were like “oh! That makes perfect sense!!” So then I started believing it. I thought I had just made myself push it into the back of my mind because it hurt so bad. So when the memory got brought to the surface, I had to face it and deal with it and flash backs and supposedly PTSD got worse.
I got help for that, but it didn’t really fix anything. So then I started doubting myself. I’d have days where I was sure it didn’t happen, and then days where I was terrified to leave my house because the “flash backs” were so bad and I was scared of people.
Anyway, this memory went on for over a year. And then one day I told my therapist(a different one. Not the one that made me think I was abused) that I thought it wasn’t real. So we worked on it for months.
And I was so scared that I had lied for attention. So I started cutting again and suicidal thoughts got way worse. Lying about abuse is the mother of all lies): I still feel like I lied. I feel like a compulsive liar and I’m scared. I don’t want to be a liar. I really believed that it happened.
How can I move on from this “memory”? It just seems unacceptable to not punish myself for pretty much lying. I don’t know what to do. I put a lot of people in a really bad place because of this. I’m having lunch tomorrow with one of the women that was directly involved, and to me her story about abuse….I feel like I lied to her and that now she’ll hate me.
It’s a huge step for me to tell people that the abuse didn’t happen. I feel so guilty everyday about it, and I don’t think I should be alive. I feel like I did a terrible thing. It was an accident. Do you have any advice? I don’t know what to do. I can’t keep living like this.

Birmingham Eating Disorders Expert’s Reply

You must not punish yourself for past mistakes. Only ever look to learn from them to never make the same mistake again and to make things better.
At a vunerable time you were led down a path that you explored to look for a reason for how you felt and behaved.
You trusted the ideas that the therapist suggested and were totally open to them helping you.
They too were mis guided. Former clients have successfully sued freudian therapists  who have not helped them, in fact they have left their client in a worse place than when they started.

Anorexia is often a diet with no exit strategy

Sometimes anorexia is started by a diet with no exit strategy and thats it. period! Not crap from the past ( that said everyone has some crap in their past, its called being human and growing up)
 I have some videos on this channel about that.
You need to focus on ”How can I make my life better in spite of everything”
Look after yourself and be ‘kind’ to you you are worth it. Please watch the videos of mine that appeal and feel free to ask some questions in the comments section.
Watch one of my latest videos called ”Focus and Motivation” as it will help

Videos to help overcome PTSD

There are ones for overcoming PTSD too all of my videos are focused on solutions rather than dwelling in the past forever. It was bad enough the first time why would you want to stay there.
Show this video to your therapist and if they are open to things Ive said then carry on working with them but ask to focus on; how can I become more confident and build my self esteem and be kind to ‘me’
Watch and listen how they re-act and if its not supportive of you, look for a better therapist to help you :)
Lots of love
Debbie xx

Anorexia Treatment

Looking for reasons in the past for causes of anorexia can cause much heartache all round & not result in helping the anorexic at all. Its far better to focus on learning strategies of what naturally lean, healthy happy people do which will leave the destructive pattern of anorexic thinking behind the sufferer.
Lots of free help is available from the Facebook page


Birmingham Based Food- Disorders Specialist Hypnotherapist and NLP Master Practitioner Debbie Williams studied with the best in these fields including Dr Richard Bandler who she assisted since 1995 and Paul McKenna. Debbie had bulimia herself for over 10 years and was able to train herself to eat as a normal person does using NLP and hypnotherapy. She has produced many self help videos to support others as well as inexpensive hypnosis recordings covering all issues around eating problems.
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